We Need Hugs – Virginia Satir

We are still in lockdown due to the Coronavirus. For now, we can only hug our immediate family members. Hugging others is out of the question. Let’s continue with elbow bumps until it is safe to freely give out hugs. Remember your masks during this time.

We need 4 hugs a day for survival.
We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance.
We need 12 hugs a day for growth.

Achieve Success

I read this very good excerpt from the very good book Chicken Soup for the Soul by Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen. I do recommend this book. It has the most rewarding stories that one can use every day. This excerpt is especially a good one to remember when one wants to achieve success in your life.

” Trying harder doesn’t always work.

Sometimes we need to do something radically different to achieve greater levels of success.

We need to break out of our paradigm prisons, our habit patterns, and our comfort zones”.

Passion + Craftsman + Servant (from Three Mindsets by Jim Collins)

Find the nexus point of what you truly Love to do, what you can be Great at, and what the world Needs.

If you want to actualize your potential (in creativity, enjoyment, and wealth) you need to truly LOVE what you do. 

It’s not enough to Love it and strive to be Great at it, you need to find a way to share your Passion and Craft with the world.

And, you need to do the often hard work of figuring out how to truly create value by giving people what they really want and are willing to pay for.

Enter: The Servant Mindset

Feelings follow behavior

Remember that feelings follow behavior.

The little things you do matter.

Stand up tall.

Act the way you’d act if you were feeling great even if you’re not feeling great.

And, shockingly, you’ll find that your feelings follow that behavior more than you may initially believe.

WIRM: Witness + Interdict + Redirect + Maintain

Negativity destroys performance, so it is crucial to train to move from witnessing negative thoughts to starving them and feeding the positive. This is the specific process:

1. Witness negativity. 

2. Interdict, or stop, the negative thoughts with a power statement. 

3. Redirect your mind with self-talk and imagery to something positive and productive for your current goal. 

4. Maintain your new mental state with a jingle or mantra.

Witness + Interdict + Redirect + Maintain.


by Mark Divine

Be so good they can’t ignore you

 The next time life presents you with a challenge, don’t simply assume everything will work out.

Don’t tell yourself you can’t do it.

Just evaluate the situation.

Figure out what you can accomplish right now.

Then draw your line.

When you cross that line, draw another one. And keep going.

Let’s keep our lightbulbs screwed in so God can shine through us…. 

Taken from Brian Johnson: Optimize +1

We Need Others

We need others.

We need others to love and we need to be loved by them.

There is no doubt that without it, we too,

like the infant left alone,

would cease to grow,

cease to develop,

choose madness and even death

Freedom by Victor Frankl

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—

to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

Related to that wisdom is this: 

  • Between stimulus and response, there is a space.
  • In that space is our power to choose our response.
  • In our response lies our growth and our freedom.