How we can build self-efficacy by Albert Bandura

Selfefficacy is a person’s belief in his or her ability to succeed in a particular situation.

Four ways we can build self-efficacy

1. Mastery Experience. In other words, PAST SUCCESS. Small and big wins from the past are GREAT ways to boost your current confidence. Create those wins, feast on them as you build your self-image as someone who succeeds (“That’s like me!!), and brings those past mastery experiences to mind when you’re facing current challenges.

2. Vicarious Learning. In other words, seeing someone else achieve the success YOU would like to achieve. The basic idea here: If they can do it, YOU can do it. KNOW that. DO NOT get envious of their success. Celebrate it. And say, “If they can do it, I can do it.”

3. Social Persuasion. In other words, someone tells you that you can achieve success. Like a coach. Or supportive parent or friend. “YOU’VE GOT THIS!!!” You can also persuade yourself through positive self-talk and an antifragile, confident mindset. And, remember to be the one persuading others of their potential!

4. Physiology. In other words, if you want to succeed, ACT like a successful person. Walk, talk, breathe, and carry yourself as if you’ve already achieved that which you aspire to achieve. Presence-101 style. Strike a power pose and go rock it

(Brian Johnson +1)

Compassion

The definition of compassion: a sympathetic awareness of another’s distress, often through unconditional love.

What is the purpose of compassion?

Compassion is the quality that teaches that there is perfection in all things and that we are to have sympathy for others, even though they may not see things the way we do.

Compassion replaces judgment.

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Love

Love, like rain, can nourish from above,

drenching couples with a soaking joy.

But sometimes, under the angry heat of life,

Love dries on the surface and must nourish from below,

tending to its roots, keeping itself alive.

Parenthood

Parents rarely let go of their children, so children let go of them.

Children move on, they move away.

The moments that used to define them,

a mother’s approval, a father’s nod, are covered by moments of their own accomplishments.

It’s not until much later, as the skin sags and the heart weakens, that children understand.

Their stories, and all their accomplishments, sit atop the stories of their mothers and fathers, store upon stone, beneath the waters of their lives.

Anger vs Forgiveness

Holding anger is like a poison

It eats you from inside

We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us

But hatred is a curved blade

And the harm we do, we do to ourselves.

FORGIVE!

No one is born with anger.

When we die, the soul is freed to it.