Feelings follow behavior

Remember that feelings follow behavior.

The little things you do matter.

Stand up tall.

Act the way you’d act if you were feeling great even if you’re not feeling great.

And, shockingly, you’ll find that your feelings follow that behavior more than you may initially believe.

WIRM: Witness + Interdict + Redirect + Maintain

Negativity destroys performance, so it is crucial to train to move from witnessing negative thoughts to starving them and feeding the positive. This is the specific process:

1. Witness negativity. 

2. Interdict, or stop, the negative thoughts with a power statement. 

3. Redirect your mind with self-talk and imagery to something positive and productive for your current goal. 

4. Maintain your new mental state with a jingle or mantra.

Witness + Interdict + Redirect + Maintain.

WIRM.

by Mark Divine

Be so good they can’t ignore you

 The next time life presents you with a challenge, don’t simply assume everything will work out.

Don’t tell yourself you can’t do it.

Just evaluate the situation.

Figure out what you can accomplish right now.

Then draw your line.

When you cross that line, draw another one. And keep going.

Let’s keep our lightbulbs screwed in so God can shine through us…. 

Taken from Brian Johnson: Optimize +1

We Need Others

We need others.

We need others to love and we need to be loved by them.

There is no doubt that without it, we too,

like the infant left alone,

would cease to grow,

cease to develop,

choose madness and even death

Freedom by Victor Frankl

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—

to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

Related to that wisdom is this: 

  • Between stimulus and response, there is a space.
  • In that space is our power to choose our response.
  • In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

How we can build self-efficacy by Albert Bandura

Selfefficacy is a person’s belief in his or her ability to succeed in a particular situation.

Four ways we can build self-efficacy

1. Mastery Experience. In other words, PAST SUCCESS. Small and big wins from the past are GREAT ways to boost your current confidence. Create those wins, feast on them as you build your self-image as someone who succeeds (“That’s like me!!), and brings those past mastery experiences to mind when you’re facing current challenges.

2. Vicarious Learning. In other words, seeing someone else achieve the success YOU would like to achieve. The basic idea here: If they can do it, YOU can do it. KNOW that. DO NOT get envious of their success. Celebrate it. And say, “If they can do it, I can do it.”

3. Social Persuasion. In other words, someone tells you that you can achieve success. Like a coach. Or supportive parent or friend. “YOU’VE GOT THIS!!!” You can also persuade yourself through positive self-talk and an antifragile, confident mindset. And, remember to be the one persuading others of their potential!

4. Physiology. In other words, if you want to succeed, ACT like a successful person. Walk, talk, breathe, and carry yourself as if you’ve already achieved that which you aspire to achieve. Presence-101 style. Strike a power pose and go rock it

(Brian Johnson +1)

Compassion

The definition of compassion: a sympathetic awareness of another’s distress, often through unconditional love.

What is the purpose of compassion?

Compassion is the quality that teaches that there is perfection in all things and that we are to have sympathy for others, even though they may not see things the way we do.

Compassion replaces judgment.

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